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Irreverent Love 

Sex, Intimacy & BDSM Coaching
For Bold Humans 
Online & In-person in Los Angeles
West Hollywood & North Hollywood Arts District Office Locations

 
 

Individuals & Couples

Break the rules
Build real Connection

Whether you're curious about what else is out there in sex, navigating shame, struggling with sexual function, or just want more confidence and clarity in your relationships, I help you find what’s getting in your way through collaborative sessions that involve actual practice, building connection skills, intimacy tools, and awareness.

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We work together experientially, sometimes with processing and conversation, sometimes through guided touch within professional and consent-focused boundaries, and always with caring and constructive feedback so you know how you’re coming across to someone and can learn in real time. Often you can get a lot of work done in traditional therapy and this is practicing that work with another human in a therapeutic container so you can take the learned skills and confidence of experience into your life. I offer a non-judgmental, structured, and caring space to grow your capacity for intimacy and erotic confidence.
 

Here are some of the issues I help with:

  • Sexual function and confidence: including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and performance anxiety

  • Emotional intimacy skills: understanding your patterns, regulating nervous system responses, expressing needs clearly

  • Sexual intimacy and consent: building skills around seduction, pleasure, shared desire, and communication

  • Women specifically: helping women understand their turn-ons, reclaim their sexual agency, or step into dominance, power, or clearer boundaries in adult play

  • Navigating Dating with Confidence & Integrity: Whether you’re newly exploring dating after a long-term relationship, feeling out of practice, or unsure how to flirt without coming off awkward or pushy, I help you build authentic connection, flirtation, and seduction skills rooted in consent, self-awareness, and mutual desire.

  • Non-Monogamy: exploring non-monogamy, polyamory, and how to navigate jealousy, boundaries, and designing your relationship life

  • Attending sex or play parties: learning how to navigate consent culture, approach people respectfully, and build confidence in these spaces

  • Exploring kink and BDSM: identifying the styles of play that feel exciting and safe to you, whether you're brand new or curious but unsure where to begin

Meet Ashley She/Her

I started my trainings and certifications in 2016 at Somatica as one of their now long established certified coaches and as one of the original and first graduating class of Dominatrices with Mistress Damiana Chi's Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy. Before all of this, I graduated from the University of Texas at Austin with an Undergrad in French language and Minor in Communications Studies. I grew up in Texas and Belgium and lived twelve years in Austin, Texas before moving to the Los Angeles area to what I love doing now, helping individuals and partners enhance their relationships, self worth and adult play lives.

My career path includes working for the Governor’s Office in Austin on the Texas Emerging Technology Fund, the Criminal Justice Divisions’ Law Enforcement Team, working in Marketing and Sales in the Wine and Spirits Industry and working in sales for Google Fiber.

Along the way I have been married and divorced, hitting emotional rock-bottom as I realized I was putting my partner before myself in just about every way. I chose to no longer live a life that wasn’t serving me and didn’t want others to do the same.

Since then I have opened my eyes to exploring sexuality, erotic connection, kink, relationship boundaries and learning what works for me personally. It’s an on-going process that I get to enjoy and share my experience and knowledge I have gained paired with my Somatica and Dominatrix training to help others. It’s through this work that I really get to help others realize that they don't have to accept a life, relationship or sex life that doesn't work for them.

Sex & Intimacy Coach

Credentials & Recognition

Credentials

-Practicing Sex & Intimacy Coach (Since 2016) & Professional Dominant (Since 2019)

-Certified Sexologist by the American College of Sexologists & American Board of Sexology
-Certified Dominatrix by The Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy by Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D (Graduated 2021)
-Certified Sex & Relationship Coach by Somatica (Graduated 2016)

-Bachelor's Degree from The University of Texas at Austin (2007)

Recognitions

-Expert instructor for CE Class for BDSM & Intimacy for the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute (2025)

-Guest podcast The Trouble With Sex (2025)
-Guest  Speaker on Panels for Master's Program Human Sexuality Courses at Pepperdine University & Phillips Graduate School (2025)

-Guest Appearance as Dominatrix & Sex Coach on Reality TV Show The Barnes Bunch (2024)
-Educator Teaching BDSM & Intimacy Skills at Play Parties (Since 2021)
-Educator Facilitating Workshops & Discussion Groups for Sex Positive Communities & Organizations (Since 2017)

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