Irreverent Love
Sex, Intimacy, Kink & BDSM Coaching
For Individuals & Partners
Los Angeles & Virtual
This Isn't Just Talking About Intimacy.
It's Learning How to Do It.
Sex, dating, intimacy and relationships are things we're somehow expected to just know how to navigate, but most of us were never actually given the tools. I help you find what’s getting in the way and build emotional, relational and sexual skills to create the confidence, love, sex and adult play life you actually want.
You can understand intellectually that you need to communicate better, stop performing, relax during sex, become more vulnerable or confidently express desire, and still have absolutely no idea how to do that when another human being is sitting in front of you.
That's where experiential coaching can be different.
I create a compassionate, nonjudgmental relationship laboratory where we can slow things down, understand what's actually happening and practice doing things differently.
Depending on what you're working on, sessions can incorporate conversation, somatic awareness, role-play, communication exercises and appropriately bounded experiential work.
You get real-time feedback about what I'm experiencing with you, not to shame or grade you, but to give you information most people in your life either can't or won't give you.
What Are You Looking for Help With?
Sexual Function & Confidence: erectile difficulties • premature ejaculation • arousal • performance anxiety • sexual confidence
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Emotional & Sexual Intimacy Skills & Consent: understanding your patterns • regulating nervous system responses • expressing needs clearly •building skills around seduction • pleasure, shared desire, and communication
I do individual and Partner Coaching →
Women specifically: helping women understand their turn-ons, reclaim their sexual agency, or step into dominance, power, or clearer boundaries in adult play
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Navigating Dating with Confidence & Integrity: Whether you’re newly exploring dating after a long-term relationship, feeling out of practice, or unsure how to flirt without coming off awkward or pushy, I help you build authentic connection, flirtation, and seduction skills rooted in consent, self-awareness, and mutual desire.
Non-Monogamy: exploring non-monogamy, polyamory, and how to navigate jealousy, boundaries, and designing your relationship life
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Attending Sex or Play Parties: learn what the different types of parties can be like and how to enjoy them at your comfort level
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Exploring Kink and BDSM: You don't have to know whether you're dominant, submissive, kinky "enough," or even what you want to try. Helping you discover what part of this enormous world actually works for you is one of my favorite things to do.
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BOOK A CONSULTATION CALL WITH ME
Not sure what kind of session you need? I can help by hearing where you're coming from. That's what the consultation is for.
Meet Ashley She/Her
Experience Matters When You're Talking About the Things You Don't Tell Everyone Else
I've spent nearly a decade working with individuals and partners around sex, intimacy, relationships, kink and power.
My work combines professional training with years of actually sitting across from people while they navigate shame, desire, erections that aren't cooperating, relationship ruptures, jealousy, kink fantasies, fear of rejection, vulnerability and the things they're sometimes terrified to admit out loud.
I started my trainings and certifications in 2016 at Somatica as one of their now long established certified coaches and as one of the original and first graduating class of Dominatrices with Mistress Damiana Chi's Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy. Before all of this, I graduated from the University of Texas at Austin with an Undergrad in French language and Minor in Communications Studies. I grew up in Texas and Belgium and lived twelve years in Austin, Texas before moving to the Los Angeles area to what I love doing now, helping individuals and partners enhance their relationships, self worth and adult play lives.
My career path includes working for the Governor’s Office in Austin on the Texas Emerging Technology Fund, the Criminal Justice Divisions’ Law Enforcement Team, working in Marketing and Sales in the Wine and Spirits Industry and working in sales for Google Fiber.
Along the way I have been married and divorced, hitting emotional rock-bottom as I realized I was putting my partner before myself in just about every way. I chose to no longer live a life that wasn’t serving me and didn’t want others to do the same.
Since then I have opened my eyes to exploring sexuality, erotic connection, kink, relationship boundaries and learning what works for me personally. It’s an on-going process that I get to enjoy and share my experience and knowledge I have gained paired with my Somatica and Dominatrix training to help others. It’s through this work that I really get to help others realize that they don't have to accept a life, relationship or sex life that doesn't work for them.
Credentials & Recognition
Credentials
-Practicing Sex & Intimacy Coach (Since 2016) & Professional Dominant (Since 2019)
-Certified Sexologist by the American College of Sexologists & American Board of Sexology
-Certified Dominatrix by The Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy by Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D (Graduated 2021)
-Group Leader in Somatica Training
-Certified Sex & Relationship Coach by Somatica (Graduated 2016)
-Bachelor's Degree from The University of Texas at Austin (2007)
Recognitions
-Interviewed by Investigative Journalist for Hebrew News (2026) "The Best-Kept Secret in the Jewish Community"
-Guest on Shameless Sex (2026) Kink Curious? Your Beginners Guide to BDSM
-Guest on Shameless Sex (2026) Power, Pleasure & the Men Who Want More
-Expert instructor for CE Class for BDSM & Intimacy for the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute (2025)
-Guest on The Trouble With Sex (2025)
-Guest Speaker on Panels for Master's Program Human Sexuality Courses at Pepperdine University & Phillips Graduate School (2025)
-Guest Appearance as Dominatrix & Sex Coach on Reality TV Show The Barnes Bunch (2024)
-Educator Teaching BDSM & Intimacy Skills at Play Parties (Since 2021)
-Educator Facilitating Workshops & Discussion Groups for Sex Positive Communities & Organizations (Since 2017)